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BY GORDON GUILLERGAN
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“If pain must come, may it come quickly. Because I have a life to live, and I need to live it in the best way possible. If he has to make a choice, may he make it now. Then I will either wait for him or forget him.” ― Paulo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept
SOMETIMES we are too eager to move on, or perhaps impatient to finally free ourselves from our past that without rational consideration of the effects, we act by impulse.
Take this case. There’s an action for the annulment of a marriage but even without judicial order of the finality of such previous marriage, one already contracted a subsequent marriage, perhaps thinking that the mere initiated action to annul the previous marriage is enough to free one into contracting a subsequent marriage.
A line of jurisprudence has established the need for finality of the judicial order for the annulment of a marriage before all other subsequent actions for remarriage may be entered into; the trial court ordering that a decree of absolute nullity of marriage shall only be issued after liquidation, partition, and distribution of the parties properties.
The new rule says you have to register the Entry of Judgment in the Local Civil Registrar of the place where your marriage was solemnized, and in the Local Civil Registrar of the Place where the court which issued the Entry of Judgment is located.
If you can show proof to the court that the registration of the Entry of Judgment in the Local Civil Registrar has been done, it will issue you a Decree of Annulment.
The law says that partition and distribution of the properties of the spouses and the delivery of the children’s presumptive legitimes shall be recorded in the appropriate civil registry and registries of property. Otherwise, your second marriage is also void.
It is preemptive for one to go into marriage before everything about the previous marriage has been settled by the court.
Never go into another relationship unless you have settled everything with your previous one. Funny how there is such a thing as an unwritten three-month rule in a relationship – assuming that it takes that long to fully recover from a previous relationship.
My personal take: settle everything not only with your past but with yourself, too. Some find it rather hard to remarry after an annulment, others become jaded. But what is important is you’re dealing with it personally – meaning, you and you alone. Though it is good to have friends and family to support you, there are certain things you need to deal with on your own.
Everyone may have a piece to say but at the end of the day it is you who shall mend the wounds and clear the air of your past. Going into another relationship will only partially or sugarcoat the real pain. And there would be tendencies to make the same mistake.
Take time to know what went wrong and how it should be the next time. Most importantly, know your worth so you would know your limitations./PN
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