BY FR. SHAY CULLEN
IT IS WONDERFUL to see the happiness and freedom enjoyed by the many children that have recovered from the trauma of domestic sexual abuse and those sold into sex slavery.
Freedom from fear and abuse is the result of the therapeutic healing program in the Preda Foundation home for abused children.
There is a great need for more healing centers of sexual abuse trauma. Abused children have nowhere to go to be protected and heal and recover. Most victim-survivors live with the hurt, pain and fear all their lives. As one older victim said, “it is as if it only happened yesterday.”
Many do recover at the Preda children’s home with support, encouragement, affirmation and Emotional Release Therapy where the pain, anger, and hatred is released by crying and confronting their abusers.
I share some of these success stories to encourage victim-survivors, parents and defenders of child rights that healing is possible. They just have to speak out and seek help and protection and find freedom and justice.
I have told this story in the past as it gives hope and encouragement that no matter the abuse done to a child, with proper care, therapy and empowerment, the child victim-survivor can overcome and win out in the end and find healing and justice.
Tessie is a child that was totally controlled by her parents, relatives and neighbors. She had never known her biological parents until she was seven.
When she was eight, her brother, Mar, then 14 years old and into watching child sex abuse images on the internet, raped her one night and threatened her not to tell anyone or bad things would happen to her. She was terrified and remained silent, burying the secret, pain and fear within her. Her trauma did not end there.
When she was 11 years of age, Rene, whom she called “Uncle Rene,” the brother of her sister’s husband, raped her in her bed in the dark of night. She was again threatened and remained silent, never daring to oppose the abusive adults, frightened that they might kill her if she told any one.
Instilling fear into a child victim is the strongest protection a child rapist has to avoid being found out. Dark silence is the world of the abused child. Tessie was too scared to make a complaint although she was filled with anger and fear. Yet, she remembered every act of abuse and suffered in silence. Her family was against her.
Then the worst thing of all happened to her. At 12 years of age, her own biological father came at night and raped her aggressively. It didn’t end there. Her family held her as a sex slave and her older brother, Engel, came too and raped her when she was 15 years of age. He made his threats of violence against her so she lived in constant fear and was traumatized. There was no way out for Tessie.
Juvie, her older sister who had suffered and endured similar abuse from several family members, was silent and afraid to talk. She was sent to work outside and earn for her relatives as a domestic servant in the house of a middle class family.
Princess was unable to contain her grief and pain any longer about what was being done to her and told the teenage daughter of her employer. That young woman had been likely attending Preda seminars on child rights and abuse and she knew what she had to do.
On March 21, she went to the municipal social worker and reported what Princess had told her. The truth was out and there was hope for Tessie and her sister to get help. (To be continued)/PN
