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BY JUN ESCALONA
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Saturday, June 17, 2017
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PLEASE don’t get us wrong here; we mean circumspection, not circumcision. To be circumspect is to be cautious, or prudent, of what we utter or do particularly when we are under stress.
If we are not prudent, we might end up bullying people left and right. What is bullying by the way?
Bullying is an act of aggressive and unwanted behavior that involves intimidating and/or physically harming another person. Among school-age children, bullying involves a power imbalance of the stronger attacking the weaker.
Children bullied at home commonly become the bullies in school. They take out their rage on smaller or weaker people to give themselves power since they are powerless at home.
Another reason a student may bully another is self-protection. Sometimes a child will participate in belittling another person to prevent the bullies from picking on him; he diverts the attention to another and become part of the power rather than be victimized.
Human groups, even children, are made up of leaders and followers. Because of their perceived strength, children often respond to bullies as they would a leader and do what they are told (giving up their lunch money, or doing someone else’s homework). But there is a real difference; a natural leader takes charge with good intentions, while a bully will dominate another person at all costs.
There are circumstances where a leader is also a bully, but that is off-topic here. Most bullies have low self-esteem and feel powerless at their core. The dynamic of predator/prey can change for the victim if the bullying is caught early and parental involvement occurs.
Bullying is not only in children of school age. Sometimes it happens in adults, too, particularly in politics, and even in the media where the supposed “stronger” victimize the “weaker” sex.
We particularly refer to women in politics who were and are being bullied by their “stronger” rivals, or the subalterns, in the race to public office. In Antique, I remember having seen a large campaign placard humiliating the former governor Sally Zaldivar Perez because of her age.
That was several years ago, and recently it was Gov. Rhodora Cadiao’s turn to be bullied by her allegedly stronger rival, but their bullying turned the tables on their boss and spelled Governror Cadiao’s historic victory.
Now the bullies have a new target to “idolize”, pardon my term, but that is how I see it. Their very recent target of bullying is the very provider of billions of budgetary allocations for Antique as chairperson of the Senate Committee of Finance, Sen. Loren Legarda. Blame it on the lady senator’s feminine and legislative power for being hailed by Department of Public Works and Highways officials as Antique’s “champion”
We can only condemn the deed of bullying but of course we cannot condemn the doer, although the doer is just as bad as his deed.
Old people usually say, “Ang manga nga damo bunga amo ang masami ginabato.”
When will they ever learn? (escalonajun3@gmail.com/PN)
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