SAME rules, new deadline (September 30, 2021, please).
Six years ago, I started The September Project on Facebook.
I didn’t get a boyfriend that time.
I had several dates (to meet people), but that’s about it.
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It might be worth revisiting this year.
Because, Why not?
So, here’s what I said six years ago, and this is still I what I want —
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This may sound like a joke, but it’s not.
It’s been nine months since I, polymath (shortcut for the poly-hyphenated “nurse-teacher-filmmaker-poet-playwright-fictionist-social advocate-writer-producer-director-actor-HIV testing poster boy-life coach-among many other things” description) Peter Solis Nery, became a young widower.
I think that I can live a single man’s life for the rest of my days (I got varied interests that can keep me busy), but I also feel that I should open myself to the idea of finding new love, or at least, a boyfriend.
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If you want something so much, you have to do something about it.
Boyfriends just don’t fall from the sky (unlike meatballs!). But where to look?
Most often, my so-called fame and celebrity gets in the way.
People “who think they know me” are often intimidated to even try.
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Sure, I get indecent proposals.
But I’m not the kiss all frogs type of guy.
I’m really a romantic, a demisexual, and I want to fall in love in the grand ways of the movies.
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Just because people are much braver and gutsier to say things online than in real life, I thought that I should start looking here.
Perhaps, people will be less intimidated to approach me, message me, woo me, even propose a date.
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Conversations can start from a reply to my posts, and who knows where they may lead.
I am a young-looking 46 (pictures will show it, but you can always check me out in person), fit, healthy, disease-free, spiritual (not necessarily religious in the Catholic sense), with considerable financial freedom (I can afford to be retired at 45!), and a very, very cosmopolitan point of view.
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I am passionate about many things like music and art, and lost causes.
My role models are: Audrey Hepburn, Saint (Pope) John Paul II, Mother Teresa, and the man called Jesus Christ in the Bible (but I am neither a Jesus nor a Bible freak!).
I try to live with my role models’ brand of kindness and grace.
I really believe that I am a good and beautiful person.
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What am I looking for?
There is no accounting for my taste (I married a white American 22 years my senior, and bedded a blue-eyed blonde 26 years my junior soon after my husband died), so I really have no particular type.
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But I know that I want more than just a platonic relationship, and definitely more than just a fling.
I want a boyfriend, a lover, perhaps a future husband.
He must be gay.
I don’t really like straight men, and I don’t fancy bisexuals and transexuals either (they’ll do for a hook up, but that’s just about it).
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He must be HIV negative; and if he has STD history, he must have been treated.
No offense meant; it’s just my personal preference.
If he is over 35, he must be financially stable.
If he is younger, like 18 to 25, he must be a real trophy boyfriend.
If he is between 25 and 35, he must have at least a job.
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He must be faithful, honest, and with a heart for monogamy.
Also, there can only be one drama queen in the relationship, and I reserve the right to claim the throne, err, the role.
Emotionally unstable people will not be considered.
I maybe a rescue person, but I don’t want to be a babysitter in a relationship.
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Why should gay men even bother to apply?
Short answer: For a chance at love in the age of Facebook, Google, and YouTube.
Long answer: Because life is short, and we cannot quit loving, and everyone deserves to be loved, even the great Peter Solis Nery!
Also, being with someone is a gift that I can give.
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What to expect?
I promise to do (note: the verb is ‘do’, not ‘try’) everything for a mutually beneficial relationship.
I wouldn’t mind spending to dine and wine my lover in high places.
If he wants excursions abroad, he must have a passport.
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I am not a fool, and I will not be a milking cow.
I am smart that way, so opportunists need not apply.
I will not try to buy your love.
I’m not that kind of guy.
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Think of this as the reality TV show The Bachelor or The Bachelorette, only, it’s The Widower Peter Solis Nery who is looking for a lover at this time.
This 30-day quest for a boyfriend starts on September 1, 2015.
If an ideal partner is found, official dating will start on October 1st.
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If not, life will go on.
But before then, let’s give September a chance for a most memorable romance.
Are you up for the boyfriend position?
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If you know of nice gay men who may be interested, or who you think have a chance, please feel free to refer them to this page.
Thank you, and may God bless you for helping love spread around./PN
