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BY PETER SOLIS NERY
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The September Project
THIS IS A reprint of my original post on “The September Project” Facebook page last year. It has also been previously published in my last newspaper affiliation, but I thought it would be great to print this now, in October, just to give you, my dear readers, a better understanding of my column pieces last week. I really think you’ll like this.
This may sound like a joke, but it’s not.
It’s been nine months since I, polymath (shortcut for the poly-hyphenated “nurse-teacher-filmmaker-poet-playwright-fictionist-social advocate-writer-producer-director-actor-HIV testing poster boy-life coach-among many other things” description), became a young widower. I think that I can live a single man’s life for the rest of my days (I got varied interests that can keep me busy), but I also feel that I should open myself to the idea of finding new love, or at least, a boyfriend.
If you want something so much, you have to do something about it. Boyfriends just don’t fall from the sky (unlike meatballs!). But where to look? Most often, my so-called fame and celebrity gets in the way. People “who think they know me” are often intimidated to even try. Sure, I get indecent proposals. But I’m not the kiss-all-frogs type of guy. I’m really a romantic, a demisexual, and I want to fall in love in the grand ways of the movies.
Just because people are much braver and gutsier to say things online than in real life, I thought that I should start looking here. Perhaps, people will be less intimidated to approach me, message me, woo me, even propose a date. Conversations can start from a reply to my posts, and who knows where they may lead.
I am a young-looking 46 (pictures will show it, but you can always check me out in person), fit, healthy, disease-free, spiritual (not necessarily religious in the Catholic sense), with considerable financial freedom (I can afford to be retired at 45!), and a very, very cosmopolitan point of view. I am passionate about many things like music and art, and lost causes. My role models are: Audrey Hepburn, Saint (Pope) John Paul II, Mother Teresa, and the man called Jesus Christ in the Bible (but I am neither a Jesus nor a Bible freak!). I try to live with my role models’ brand of kindness and grace. I really believe that I am a good and beautiful person.
What am I looking for? There is no accounting for my taste (I married a white American 22 years my senior, and bedded a blue-eyed blonde 26 years my junior soon after my husband died), so I really have no particular type. But I know that I want more than just a platonic relationship, and definitely more than just a fling. I want a boyfriend, a lover, perhaps a future husband. He must be gay. I don’t really like straight men, and I don’t fancy bisexuals and transexuals either (they’ll do for a hook up, but that’s just about it.) He must be HIV negative; and if he has STD history, he must have been treated. No offense meant; it’s just my personal preference. If he is over 35, he must be financially stable. If he is younger, like 18 to 25, he must be a real trophy boyfriend. If he is between 25 and 35, he must have at least a job. He must be faithful, honest, and with a heart for monogamy. Also, there can only be one drama queen in the relationship, and I reserve the right to claim the throne, err, the role. Emotionally unstable people will not be considered. I maybe a rescue person, but I don’t want to be a babysitter in a relationship.
Why should gay men even bother to apply? Short answer: For a chance at love in the age of Facebook, Google, and YouTube. Long answer: Because life is short, and we cannot quit loving, and everyone deserves to be loved, even the great Peter Solis Nery! Also, being with someone is a gift that I can give.
What to expect? I promise to do (note: the verb is “do”, not “try”) everything for a mutually beneficial relationship. I wouldn’t mind spending to dine and wine my lover in high places. If he wants excursions abroad, he must have a passport. I am not a fool, and I will not be a milking cow. I am smart that way, so opportunists need not apply. I will not try to buy your love. I’m not that kind of guy.
Warning: HIV tests, and background checks including NBI clearance (it’s a passport requirement, isn’t it?), will be made. I have no interest if you have a criminal record!
Think of this as the reality TV show The Bachelor or The Bachelorette, only, it’s The Widower Peter Solis Nery who is looking for a lover at this time. This 30-day quest for a boyfriend starts on Sept. 1, 2015. If an ideal partner is found, official dating will start on October 1st. If not, life will go on. But before then, let’s give September a chance for a most memorable romance. Are you up for the boyfriend position?
If you know of nice gay men who may be interested, or who you think have a chance, please feel free to refer them to this page. Thank you, and may God bless you for helping love spread around./PN
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